Rite 13

This year's Rite 13 Ceremony will be held Sunday, May 14th at the 10:00 a.m. service, which is also, appropriately, Mother's Day!

Rite 13 is a celebration and honoring of a child's rite of passage into adolescents.  Many of you may have been Confirmed at 13, which is still part of the tradition in the Episcopal Church.  However, many observed that Confirmations seemed to signal an ending to a child's involvement until, many years later, they returned as adults once they started their own families.  Rite 13 evolved as a compliment to the tradition of Confirmation, and serves to celebrate the kids as they transition from children into teens.  The ceremony signifies the beginning of a relationship between the community, parents, family and friends to come together in support of our youth as they negotiate the joyous, exciting, turbulent waters of adolescents.  This tends to be a beautiful and reflective time for families to unite around an important transition, for teens to bond with one another, and for parents to celebrate AND commiserate!

Generally the ceremony is for those kids either turning 13 before the next school year starts or who have turned 13 since last July; most who participate are in 7th or 8th grade.  

If you and your child are interested in participating in this ceremony please let me know.  We will be holding a meeting Sunday, March 26th following the 10:00 a.m. service in the Philbrick Room to talk about the details of the ceremony and your family's involvement.  

Looking forward to having you join us,



Please fill out the form below to let us know you will be participating.

Child's Name *
Child's Name
Parent Name *
Parent Name
Yes, I am participating in Rite 13 *


The following is the schedule leading up to May 14th Ceremony:

Sunday, March 26th — 11:30 Informational meeting for both parents and teens (Philbrick Room)

Wednesday May 10th 5:00 PM - 8:00 PM - Meeting for teens only (Thaxter Hall) — we will have pizza to eat

Saturday May 13th 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM - Family Dinner and rehearsal of Rite 13 Ceremony for both teens and parents (location TBD)

Sunday, May 14th — the Ceremony during Rite II 10:00 am Service


We are trying something new this year, and asking parents to collect these for their teen, and then deliver them as a collection to Tebbetts to be compiled into a scrapbook that will be shared with your son or daughter at the rehearsal dinner on Saturday, May 13th.

Each family is asked to write and solicit letters for their son or daughter.  I encourage you to solicit them from far and wide if you'd like.  Teachers, coaches, grandparents, aunt/uncles, older siblings/cousins, myself, Anne, Ashley Wade, etc...those are all great choices!  Some guiding prompts for the letters might be:

  • What do you wish for this young person as s/he grows toward adulthood?
  • What kind of adult do you see him/her being?
  • What makes this young person special? Unique?  
  • What are his or her special gifts and talents?
  • How are you proud of him/her?
  • What have you learned from him or her?  What has s/he taught you?
  • What advice do you have from your own experience growing up?  What do you wish you had known that you know now?
  • Why do you love him or her?

There are NO rules to the letters and definitely no wrong answers.  Write from your heart….